While we mostly think of these days as a time of joy and good tidings, they can also be filled with stress and triggers, especially for those who are already coping with emotional struggles.
Mental Health America reports that 21 million American adults, and another 3.7 million youth (ages 12-17), are affected by major depression each year. Despite the pervasive nature of depression, harmful myths abound that prevent people from seeking support. Increased awareness about depression can help all of us to be more aware this holiday season.
The misconceptions that depression manifests from a particular cause or always reveals itself as “feeling sad” are myths. In reality, depression is not always a cause-and-effect phenomenon, nor can it be defined simply as sadness. More aptly put, depression is a prolonged state of general malaise and hopelessness that is often accompanied by physical symptoms. Around the holidays, these symptoms can increase and be disguised as your typical holiday blues.
Family togetherness is a common source of tension during the holidays, but it’s important to remember that people who don’t have family to share the festivities with are vulnerable, as well. The messages we see on social media at this time of year – that everyone is happily shopping for presents, sharing meals together and celebrating – can serve as triggers and painful reminders for those who feel left out.
Similarly, feelings of anxiety and grief can also increase this time of year. It can be hard to reconcile pain and worry with the joyful, happy sights and sounds of the holidays. Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness do not mix well with songs urging us to be merry and bright. As a result, most people experience a pressure to conform to the collective emotional norm and may be hesitant to share about their current struggles.
This year, as a gift to ourselves and to everyone near and dear, let’s embrace both the joy and the stress that commingle. We cannot lose sight of the very real fact that both seemingly opposing feeling states are in fact a normal and healthy part of this time of year. In the spirit of the season, we would do well to remember that being loving to ourselves and others is perhaps the greatest gift of all.
Be sure to take care of yourself by sleeping, eating and exercising as you normally would. And just as our bodies need looking after, we must also prioritize our emotional well-being throughout all the hustle and bustle. Take timeouts when you need them and put into practice your go-to stress relievers: Meditate, read, watch your comfort show, go for a walk, take a nap. Equally as important, pay attention to your loved ones, friends and co-workers. Check in, ask questions, take the time to make someone else feel appreciated by gifting them with your attention and energy.
This time of year can be uplifting and renewing, but it is also taxing and may evoke stress, sadness and anxiety. ‘Tis the season to remember life is dynamic and ever changing. What we see as a problem today, may be a guideline we use to mark change tomorrow. Best wishes for the holidays and for 2026!
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